He is all set to be a college freshman this fall, but he doesn’t
have the most polished and sophisticated social skills. He is, in
fact, a bit shy and introverted. A bit of a computer geek, he
didn’t date much in high school, but Jill blew him away when they
met at the summer mixer for incoming students.

As he was taking her to the dorm to drop her off for the
evening, his mind was racing. He wanted to kiss her goodnight. But
did he dare make the move? She is so special. And he didn’t want to
spoil things with her before they really even started. So he
debated with himself. His palms were sweaty. He had a
plan.

He would be subtle. His idea was to thank her for the evening,
lean toward her and just kiss her forehead. And he did.

“Thanks for a wonderful evening,” he said. “I had a really nice
time.”

To his bewilderment, she smiled at him and cooed in the sweetest
voice, “A little lower, please.”

So in the deepest, basso-profondo voice – sounding almost like
James Earl Jones’ – he repeated his words fully an octave lower
than the first time: “Thanks for a wonderful evening. I had a
really nice time.”

Communication is tricky. Our words don’t always come out right.
We sometimes miss the cues people are trying to give us. We think
we are responding appropriately, and only later do we realize how
foolish we have been.

* “All people are created equal” sometimes really meant “unless
you are female, African, Asian, handicapped, or poor.”

* “Honey, these condoms can help protect you” was reasonably
understood to mean that sexual activity was expected of
her.

* “We value your business” begins to sound hollow as a company
slogan when customers wait needlessly only to be treated
rudely.

* “But, sweetheart, you know I love you!” isn’t enough to make
her stay after he has hit her and blacked her eye –
again.

* “Shut up and put on those church clothes!” hardly seems to
communicate the sort of religion kids will want to continue going
to church to hear about.

Sometimes the things we communicate – or fail to communicate –
with our words are wildly funny. Sometimes they confuse us and
throw us into momentary panic. Sometimes they are positively tragic
and destroy relationships that matter.

Jesus once made this point by asking, “Why do you call me ‘Lord,
Lord,’ and do not do what I tell you?” (Luke 6:46). Good question,
don’t you think?